Have you ever listened to men discuss throw pillows? Probably not—it’s just not on their radar—it’s right up there with discussions on fluffy bath mats and perfect soap dishes to match your bathroom décor.
In general, throw pillows are not a “thing” for guys. They usually leave this area to women because, if it was up to them, no bed, no couch, and no chair would have anything that obstructs their ability to immediately use that piece of furniture. The concept of clearing off the bed before jumping into it is foreign to them, until they get married.
The one thing I have to say for men though, is while they may not like throw pillows, their aversion to them is based on solid reasoning. Clutter? Yes. More work to make the bed? True.
But for a woman, a dressed bed is a pretty bed, and she may be unable to resist the temptation to decorate it to the nines! But is it possible to have too much of a good thing? Take a look at your bed again—does it look well-dressed, or like a pillow nest? I’ll give you a moment to think about that….
In my other life, I was a housekeeper for multiple families. One family had a bed with 12 decorative pillows on it. As a conscientious housekeeper (bordering on punctilious), I did my best to make the bed look as perfect as possible. I even drew a diagram so I could remember exactly how to place the pillows. Like I said, I was very conscientious…. Needless to say, my clients loved my attention to detail.
However, it left me with a question: How many pillows are too many? Three? Five? Eight? Ten? Anything more than 12? Obviously, the answer to this question is subjective, but there does come a point where there are so many that it may just be easier to ditch the bed and sleep on the pillows.
While contemplating how many decorative pillows you should or should not have on your queen or king-size bed, there are two things you should remember.
- The more upholstery, fabric, pillows, and curtains in a room, the more maintenance it will be to care for them. This is especially important if you want to maintain a healthy and balanced ecology instead of taking an unwelcomed crash-course in toxic entomology. That’s because anything covered in fabric—chairs, decorative pillows, and drapery—will all need to be vacuumed and cleaned regularly to keep the dust mites and other allergens at bay.
- Consider the feelings of the other person you’re sharing this space with. If the plethora of pillows is stressing out your mate before bed, perhaps you could make a compromise. Remember that the purpose of our bedroom is for winding down, relaxing, love-making and, ultimately, sleeping.
So how many throw pillows are too many? The exact number depends on the size of your bed, but it generally falls somewhere between your glee and your mate’s misery. That middle ground is your magic number and your happy place.
. . . or you could use the tried and true method generations of women have used before you—when you run out of bed, stop.